Yesterday was the first anniversary of a very dear couple.To celebrate the occasion,they had thrown a lunch for close family members and relatives. I was there too with my kids.It was a lovely gathering with good food and friendly people.As pleasantries were being exchanged,a lady who was the groom's aunt asked me a very simple question....."How are you related to the couple?" and pat came my reply,"We are not related. We are family friends."
But the question left me thinking......are we really not related?What is relation?Does only being a member of the same family tree or being connected to a family tree by marriage make you a relative?
I am dead sure that the aunt didn't know the couple as much as I do....she won't be able to know the groom's food habits or the bride's dreams more than me .Most of the relatives present at the gathering would not call them up for help at midnight like I did when my husband was in hospital.None of them had the pleasure of getting the romantic updates of the couple during their coutship days from the couple themselves which I did.:).This is one couple who calls up to say "Hello" without any reason or occasion.The groom was the one who was there to welcome us at the airport whenever we used to visit India during our stay in the U.S.He was the one who saw us off at the airport when we were leaving India for the first time.I made sure that I was there to welcome his new bride when she joined him in Delhi after the wedding.(not to pay back his loving gesture but to be with him in his moment of happiness).
Friends,Family,Family friends or Relative...........give the relation whatever name you want ,we may not be mentioned in each other's family tree but these are the relations which make relationships meaningful!!!!
But the question left me thinking......are we really not related?What is relation?Does only being a member of the same family tree or being connected to a family tree by marriage make you a relative?
I am dead sure that the aunt didn't know the couple as much as I do....she won't be able to know the groom's food habits or the bride's dreams more than me .Most of the relatives present at the gathering would not call them up for help at midnight like I did when my husband was in hospital.None of them had the pleasure of getting the romantic updates of the couple during their coutship days from the couple themselves which I did.:).This is one couple who calls up to say "Hello" without any reason or occasion.The groom was the one who was there to welcome us at the airport whenever we used to visit India during our stay in the U.S.He was the one who saw us off at the airport when we were leaving India for the first time.I made sure that I was there to welcome his new bride when she joined him in Delhi after the wedding.(not to pay back his loving gesture but to be with him in his moment of happiness).
Friends,Family,Family friends or Relative...........give the relation whatever name you want ,we may not be mentioned in each other's family tree but these are the relations which make relationships meaningful!!!!
Well said and agreed...though I have a lesser experience in leading a successful social life, thanx to my career I chose, but there r some people who despite of anything related to blood or DNA, has been there during my woe days, unlike my fastest family first who don't even bother to ask about my welfare after an operation, forget about normal day to day problems.....yes, there are some frenz too who helped me only get their selfish Swarth done, but chalo, jahan apne hi kaam na aaye, gairon se kya shikayat karein!!! Thanx Di, for again starting up this, was missing ur blogs
ReplyDeleteWell said and agreed...though I have a lesser experience in leading a successful social life, thanx to my career I chose, but there r some people who despite of anything related to blood or DNA, has been there during my woe days, unlike my fastest family first who don't even bother to ask about my welfare after an operation, forget about normal day to day problems.....yes, there are some frenz too who helped me only get their selfish Swarth done, but chalo, jahan apne hi kaam na aaye, gairon se kya shikayat karein!!! Thanx Di, for again starting up this, was missing ur blogs
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